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In 2012, I stepped out of my confort zone, a great job, friends & city to follow my dreams. This year, I plan to Do More.
It’s that time of year when we all look back and reflect. When I started this series in 2008, I thought it was silly and overdone. These days, it’s one of my favorite sets of posts to reread. They bring back the memories of the people and events that were important to me in year’s past like 2008, 2009, 2010 and 2011. You can find my 2012 memories here, but I thought for this year, it would also be appropriate to look back and remember the five biggest lessons I learned.
People say, “Pay yourself first.” I’ve always strived to do that, but not consistently. The latter three months of the year, I made sure I paid myself first every. single. day. From leaving work on time, to eating right and getting a personal trainer, it’s made all the difference in the world. If you do one thing everyday, make sure it’s about taking care of the mental and physical well-being of y-o-u.
It’s never too late to make amends or reconnect with friends. It might not be quite like “old times,” but real friends will be there when you need them most, no matter what the past may have looked like.
I learned more about the things I don’t like. I think learning about the things you don’t like is sometimes more helpful than learning about the things you do like. Although it’s a lot more painful
I revamped my thinking on how much a PLACE to live matters. In the past, I’ve always said that it doesn’t matter where you live, what matters is the people. My thinking was that for sixteen hours of the day, no matter where you were, a bed and office looked the same. For the remaining eight hours, how much could a place really matter if you were surrounded by people you love? Until this year, I was quite adamant about my stance. After living in Ohio, I’ve since amended my thinking The city you live in is a big deal. It’s definitely a factor I won’t take lightly when I make my next move.
I was reminded again that people aren’t mind readers. No matter how you feel or what you dream, if you don’t share it aloud, no one will know. For me, those things are really scary to share. But, not sharing them can lead to just as much, if not more, heartbreak.
It’s that time of year when we all look back and reflect. When I started this series in 2008, I thought it was silly and overdone. These days, it’s one of my favorite sets of posts to reread. They bring back the memories of the people and events that were important to me in year’s past like 2008, 2009, 2010 and 2011.
Like a seesaw, 2012 was the opposite of 2011. It started out with an unbelievable bang and ended, well… as I tweeted earlier, the jury is still out on how I feel about 2012. It is one I will look back on and remember as being the year that a lot of hard lessons finally stuck.
Without further adieu, here’s the Top 10 of 2012:
How do you know if you miss someone/thing or the idea of that person/thing?
It’s a question I’ve had over the last week or so, although I’m not quite sure how to answer it. Thanks to this blog, I can read back on a lot of memories; they bring the moments back to life. What the memories don’t bring to life are the possibility of the present and future moments if that person or thing (say a job or city) were still in your life. Maybe we don’t miss the past memories at all. Maybe what we miss are the possibilities, the mystique.
At work, our leadership team is sharing “Career Journeys”. The one hour sessions are meant to inspire others to think about their own career paths and also gain visibility into how today’s leaders rose to the top. The SVP of Marketing structured his career journey into his top eight takeaways. His top eight were short, sweet and poignant. They were great reminders of things you could be doing and thinking about every day, both in your professional and personal life.
In 2011, I set out on an adventure of 100 Discoveries. I thought I could finish in a year. But, the reality is, you should never finish an adventure like the one I created. With that in mind, this post is part of that project. You can see all 10 Moments here and the entire project here. Enjoy the moments, I sure am!
Ever since I discovered Santa Runs, I’ve always wanted to be a part of one. I mean, how can you not have fun when hundreds of people around you are all running together in Santa outfits! On December 9, it finally worked out and I took part in my first Santa Run! With a Santa suit race shirt and hat, I excitedly dressed the part for a four mile run through Sharon Woods Park. Forty-seven minutes and 30 seconds later, I have one more moment (and race) under my belt… here’s to my next Santa Run being with The Perfect Running Partner
In 2011, I set out on an adventure of 100 Discoveries. I thought I could finish in a year. But, the reality is, you should never finish an adventure like the one I created. With that in mind, this post is part of that project. You can see all 10 Moments here and the entire project here. Enjoy the moments, I sure am!
A lot of my single friends know exactly what they want in a partner. They have a list of criteria for someone to live up to. I’ve never had one. I’ve never been able to articulate what my “perfect guy” looks like. But, I think I’m starting to get a pretty good idea.
When I think about the person I want to confide in, curl up next to or come home to, here’s some things he does:
Yes, this list is WAY longer than I ever imagined. But, it’s what I want and I’m finally not afraid to say so.
I loved this post so much, that I wanted to repost it in its entirety here. It’s a good reminder of how to choose some of the people you decide to keep in your life and why you should let others go.
I went on a date last night and then you texted and asked, again, whether I would come there. Start our days with coffee, end with you making dinner. Forever. I feel myself tug towards yes and then I remember why it will always be no with you and I.
There are people in your life who are going to love you for all of the wrong reasons. They will love you for the best part of your face, the best part of you naked, the best mood on your best day, the best story you ever wrote, the best outfit you ever wore.
They are going to miss the scar on the underside of your nose from the time your older brothers dared you to run across a pile of logs. They won’t know that you fell on a hidden nail just as you completed the challenge. They’ll miss the scar on your finger, too from the time you were seven and closed a swiss army knife on it. They won’t understand that these are two of only a handful of things you can remember about your childhood. They’ll notice that you have great tits, but they’ll miss that your thumb tucks into their palm when you’re walking together and that your eyes have darker circles when a migraine is coming. They won’t know you get migraines. They won’t ask where the story you wrote came from, so they’ll never know that it was true. They’ll love it because it feels real to them. They’ll miss knowing the sweatshirt full of holes that they criticized you for wearing was your dads. You might tell them some of these things along the way, but they will remember the best things instead.
They will love your good moods, your energy, your sense of humor, but miss that you never turn to them, but rather to a shower or a pillow or the back of your throat to shed tears. They won’t ever consider you strong.
When the parts that aren’t your best come out, some people will shield their eyes as if you have just forced them to look directly into the sun for hours until their irises burn. They’ll silently make you promise to never show them that again. Those things are not to be shown. Be at your best so I can love you. I would love you more if only you never show me those things.
And you do not marry those people. You do not sit and sleepily drink coffee with those people. You leave those people and you remind yourself that they missed the better parts of you.
In 2011, I set out on an adventure of 100 Discoveries. I thought I could finish in a year. But, the reality is, you should never finish an adventure like the one I created. With that in mind, this post is part of that project. You can see all 10 Moments here and the entire project here. Enjoy the moments, I sure am!
In my original project, all my moments and experiences were euphoric. Even 10 Scares turned out to be not so scary. But, this moment isn’t quite like that. It’s a moment that part of me prefers not to remember. It’s one of those moments part of you wishes you could take back, like the lyrics of the song, “I wish I didn’t know now what I didn’t know then.” Nevertheless, it happened. Like a sucker punch to the gut, it took my breath away and rocked my whole world. It changed everything I thought I had known about a situation.
Maybe one day I’ll look back at this moment and say, “Phew. Glad I dodged that bullet.” But, right now, the moment is an open wound, making me question everything I thought I knew.