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10 Scares, 100 Discoveries: Scare 4 – Facebook Friends
For me, 2011 is about a year of change, fun and new experiences. With that in mind, I decided to create my own adventure, 1 Year, 10 Projects, 100 Discoveries. This post is part of that project. You can see all 10 Scares here and the entire project here. Enjoy the experiences, I sure am!
The debate on this one is never ending – should you or shouldn’t you be Facebook friends with an ex? I’m of the camp you can be friends many years after your relationship has ended and neither of you have romantic feelings for the other. For the record, I’m friends with all my ex’s except for one. This one also happens to be my high school sweetheart and my first relationship. You know, the one that forever colors all your other relationships.
For a few months, I’ve thought about friending him on Facebook. I searched his profile, found it and while I wasn’t curious (I already knew everything that would be there), part of me still wanted to be connected. A piece of me felt that if I could be the bigger person and be Facebook friends, then maybe the things that are potentially coloring my relationships would be resolved.
So, tonight, I did the thing that I’ve been scared of for months – I requested his friendship on Facebook. Silly, I know. But, the meaning behind it is so much greater than just being digital friends. It’s so much scarier then just the possibility of digital rejection.
The outcome? Well, I’m not sure, he hasn’t accepted my friend request yet 
But, Facebook friend or not, I finally made the move. I’m finally okay with being friends with ALL my ex’s. And maybe, I’m finally okay with having a real relationship. No more running. No more hiding what I want.
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